Can’t believe it’s over

Secured a 2022 SA offer to a BB last week with a group I really like and can't believe the nightmares finally over.

I come from a lower middle class background, with abusive parents who had a slew of problems. Got a full ride to a nontarget school, joined all the right clubs, got a 4.0, and good internships for Freshman and sophomore year.

Like many people, 2020 was the worst year of my life. COVID-19 killed my grandma, one of my best friends died from cancer, my girlfriend of two years left me, I injured my ankle very badly and couldn't walk, I struggled with some terrible months of isolation at home with my parents. It was very depressing and stressful and some of the darkest months of my life. I felt completely isolated and unloved by everyone.

Even when things were looking bleak, I kept pushing through, studied my technicals, networked, and worked my ass off. I got in the best shape of my life physically and also worked out all of my issues at therapy. And I hated recruiting so much, it was miserable and kind of ruined my life honestly. But like all things in life, it ends.

Now, the summer weather is very nice, the nightmare of COVID-19 is finally over, the crypto I bought last April is six figures now (I had $50 to my name three years ago), and I'm enjoying my cushy WFH internship making four times as much as what I made working in shitty food service jobs in the comfort of my air conditioned apartment. And I got an IB offer! I'm honestly shocked and amazed that things finally turned around in my life, after so many things just going terribly wrong and experiencing terrible pain and suffering every day this just feels surreal. And yes, I know IB is a very hard challenge too, but at least you get paid well and have good exit ops.

If you're struggling with depression or mental health, talk to a therapist or a friend or family member that can help. For those out there grinding, keep at it, don't give up! I know that this is an extremely stressful and terrible time for everyone recruiting out there, but I promise you things will get better and you will find your path in life. We're all going to make it, don't give up and don't let the darkness win.

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uhhhhidkkk , what's your opinion? Comment below:

I know I'm just a stranger on the internet but just wanted to say that I am SO proud of you! Keep up the grind man

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  • Prospect in IB-M&A
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Hey congrats on your offer, you definitely deserved it man! I was in a very similar situation and know how hard it can be to stay focused when it seems like all hell is breaking loose around you. One quote from Steve Harvey that really stuck with me through my tough times and hopefully helps others as well was: "If you're going through hell, keep going. Why would you stop in hell?" Really stuck with me and put things into perspective as it's easy to fall into the mindset that things will never get better when you're at your lowest. Just finished '22 recruiting too and hopefully we end up meeting on the street; good shit bro your story is very inspiring!

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amazed , what's your opinion? Comment below:

Thanks and great job man, congrats to you as well. It feels to good to be done with all this shit. That's a great quote too, really like it. I hope you have a great junior year and good luck with your summer analyst gig!

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Bopityboop , what's your opinion? Comment below:

Not to detract from the nice message, but think Winston Churchill said that quote many decades prior and Steve Harvey re-coined it to himself haha.

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amazed , what's your opinion? Comment below:

He also recoined the miss universe names so that's very on brand for him

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amazed , what's your opinion? Comment below:

for sure! Going to try to focus on helping other people at my school break in

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smokeybruin , what's your opinion? Comment below:

Huge W

Congrats on the offer, awesome to hear. Good things happen to good and hard working people.

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BigKahunaBanker🏄🍹🍔 , what's your opinion? Comment below:

Based and grindpilled, never settle, King. You´re an inspiration to all of us non-target scum out there.

...and the Truth shall set you free
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checked, based Kahuna poster

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amazed , what's your opinion? Comment below:

Thank you! I feel like up until this point, it's been the world challenging me, and now it's going to be me challenging me, pushing myself to see how far I can go. I know banking is miserable lol but I ready for the challenge

  • Prospect in IB-M&A
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Love to see it – I also just secured a 2022 SA offer at an EB and so glad that nightmare is over. Enjoy the W my man

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Nightman Cometh , what's your opinion? Comment below:

Monster W my man. I remember how much of a pain in the ass that was not too long ago. Just getting through it is an accomplishment by itself. Keep up the hard work and be proud of yourself--the bank that you signed with def made a good call here cus you're clearly BUILT FUCKING DIFFERENT

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  • Prospect in IB-M&A
1y

lets go baby! congrats man

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Pizz , what's your opinion? Comment below:

Man, u really did go through hell. Not fun at all and so painful to wake up those days, I know it too. bravo

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1y

Nice! Congrats mate.

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nhunghoang , what's your opinion? Comment below:

Thank you for sharing it dude your hard work gets paid off, you deserve it for all physical and mental problems that you have been through. The loss and pain may take a long time, even a lifetime, to overcome (yes I must say the pain of breakup can heal but the pain of losing a beloved family member is really pathetic when sometimes you suddenly find you cannot see or find him anywhere, your grandpa will live in your heart forever). Staying at home for a long time and confronting parents everyday can cause invisible pressure. But yes you said "It's all over", and from all those things you realize how valuable and worth you are. Wish you all the best for your coming future!

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  • Prospect in IB-M&A
1y

Congrats man!

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WeWork , what's your opinion? Comment below:

Not trying to be a downer, but if you hated networking and the recruiting process in general, I don't think you will love IB .

I know I had similar feelings about how going to a certain college or reaching X goal would solve my mental health issues and make my life better and it did... for about a week.

IB is going to be grueling and not a positive experience for your health.

While it is amazing you reached this goal, don't give it more credit than it's due. If you are looking for becoming an IB summer analyst to solve your problems other than economic security, you are going to be left utterly disappointed.

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amazed , what's your opinion? Comment below:

WeWork

If you are looking for becoming an IB summer analyst to solve your problems other than economic security, you are going to be left utterly disappointed.

I'm 100% not though. I kind of enjoy that type of work but my goal really is to get $$$ /decent financial cushion to start life and career optionality and will probably leave after two years.

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FTA , what's your opinion? Comment below:

Congrats man, all we can do is keep pushing!

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Anonymous Monkey , what's your opinion? Comment below:

Only gets worse from here

  • Prospect in IB-M&A
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I'm assuming you knew what IB was coming into college even though you come from a lower middle class background??

  • Intern in IB-M&A
1y

You fucking beast! Similar story to yours and I will be at a Tier1 BB after all the hours toiling. Let's win!!!

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Isaiah_53_5 💎🙌💎🙌💎 , what's your opinion? Comment below:

Congrats man.

Covid is not over though - I don't know where you heard that.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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AdiosPlus , what's your opinion? Comment below:

I would love for recruiting to end as well. I'm a non target and been trying to get a job for 11 months. While I did not get any internships and do not have experience under my belt, I know that I will break in but .Shit. Is. Tough. But your post really gave me hope. All things in life will come to an end. I hope my recruitment difficulties will come to an end very soon.

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